I must confess that the first time I heard that some marital
arrangements are beginning to accommodate this oddness…I did not believe
it. Not until a lady wrote me a few days ago. That her ‘abroad
returnee’ husband suggested they make their sex life more exciting by
bringing in a female participant. This was after she had their second
baby. She said that when she objected-he asked if she would rather
prefer he starts cheating on her-with someone out there. She also
claimed that he gave her the liberty to bring in whoever she prefers.
Grudgingly-she gave in. That was the genesis of the ‘three some’ that is
now threatening to tear her marriage apart. She said that on the
occasions that the said lady (whom they normally pay off after every
session) joined them…that her husband reluctantly touched her because he
concentrated more on the other lady. And these days, he hardly touches
her when they are alone!
Another male friend(whose line of business has to do with ‘women’s
things’) said that a good number of his supposed married female clients
have actually approached him with requests such as helping them to find a
willing participant-in a ‘three some’ arrangement. These women take it
upon themselves to look for a willing participant (usually young girls
that are in for the money)-rather than risk their husbands making out
(elsewhere) with someone they don’t know. I also hear there are
exclusive social settings that are purely for couples that want to
sample each other’s ‘better half’…this, they call ‘swinging.’
I have since been asking ‘must any woman reduce herself to this level
(to an obviously weird man) in order to stay married?’ It is only a man
with a questionable state of mind that will even dare think along this
line. What are women letting themselves put up with-in the name of
marriage? What else could be more degrading? Which ‘self respecting’
woman will put up with a mere suggestion of such ‘sickness?’
For
goodness sake, there is little or no hope for any marriage whose
sanctity is thrown to the dogs. A marriage should observe certain limits
(e.g. keeping the marriage bed undefiled) based on the ‘values’ of
those involved. If ‘love making’ is the way that I have come to
understand it, I wonder what is there to enjoy when one can’t even focus
on who he is in the act with. What joy is there to derive from prancing
from one ‘body’ to another? Which woman is happy foregoing her
‘pleasure’ to watch her husband pound another in her presence? Why would
anybody stick to such outright degradation?
If a man decides you are no longer good enough for him in the
bedroom (despite your best efforts), please refuse to be part of any
‘sick’ idea he comes up with. Refusing to be dragged lower than you wish
to go is not arrogance; it is self-respect and no self-respecting woman
will let herself tolerate this sick arrangement-in the name of
marriage.
When you give wings to every weird imagination that
crosses your mind…you will remain slave to every ‘unwholesome thought.’
To live a happy life, you must maintain a good deal of ‘restraint.’ One
should cultivate some values too; you should be able to say ‘no’ to
certain weirdness.
It’s abhorable that young girls (I hear they now
do it for more money from their patrons) who wish to live respectable
lives- someday, allow themselves to be reduced in this manner but for a
married woman to stick same is…oddness is an understatement!
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