Love or Money? An Analysis on Why Women Marry Older Men (Photos)

From the times of old, The kingdom of love suffereth emotional
violence and only sharp babes takes it by force. A new marriage culture
seems to be taking place in Nigeria. It has been discovered that younger
women preferred marrying older men who are advanced enough to be their fathers and this virus is catching on fast.

Nigerian
old men are living proof that it is never too late to find love. When
the late Owelle of Onitsha and first President of the Federal Republic
of Nigeria, Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe, in his late ages declared his intention
to then marry his youngest wife, Uche, a member of the renowned Afikpo
traditional dance named ‘Nkwa Nwite’ which entertained him when he
visited Afikpo, Nigerians cried blue. Reason was because of the age
difference.Zik was then in his 70s while Uche was barely 16 years. The
marriage took place and today, the rest they say is history. 

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In
1989, it was publicized that Bianca Odumegwu-Ojukwu was dating the
late former Biafran Head of State and Ikemba of Nnewi Chukwuemeka
Odumegwu Ojukwu, a political associate of her father. Ojukwu who was
alleged to be over thirty years her age later married her. By early
1990s, Bianca Onoh, became Bianca Odumegwu-Ojukwu. 

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Not
done, Shade married business mogul Okoya Thomas when she was 18 years
in 2002. Later, there were reports that ex- beauty queen; Susan Hart is
‘reportedly’ married to Chief Sunny Kuku.

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72-year-old
Nigerian billionaire, Emmanuel Iwuanyanwu, a politician, statesman and
Chairman of the Champion Newspaper, created controversy after getting
married to a girl almost 50 years his junior and tied the proverbial
nuptial knot with 26-year-old Frances Chinonyerem Enwerem in a
traditional ceremony that took place in Owerri, Imo State, Capital. The
wedding comes two years after Iwuanyanwu, lost his wife Eudora
Iwuanyanwu, to cancer. Frances is reported to be the daughter of one of
Iwuanyanwu’s late wife’s close friends.

Trailing
behind Iwuanyanwu in this new marriage culture is Emeka Offor,
businessman and a contractor from Anambra State. Ofor reported to be in
his sixties secretly took another wife. He performed the traditional
rite for the marriage of a 24-year old girl as the fourth wife. The
ceremony took place at the residence of the father of the bride,
Alexander Okey Ufondu, at Umuezeopi in Oraifite, Ekwusigo Local
Government Area of Anambra State. The bride named Adaora lives with his
husband in the highbrow district of Maitama in Nigeria’s Federal
Capital Territory of Abuja.The wedding generated ripples in the
religious communities of Oraifite, the hometown of both Mr Offor and
his new father in law, Mr Ufondu, an Onitsha-based trader.

These
are the reasons why young women marry older men who are old enough to
be their Fathers age mates. Lailasblog.com spoke with Nigerians of
diverse persuasion and their responses are detailed below



  • Onyanwe Aku Uche attributes it to poverty. According to the student of Abia State University, it’s money and status only.
    Uche is of the view that such marriages lead to adultery and
    promiscuousness because, he believes that the old men cannot be able to
    sexually performed their bed responsibilities. According to him, no
    marriage survives without sex even though they enjoy such marriages,
    the girls are accused of pretending in such marriages. Nigerians
    attacked such marriages with fierce criticism and sees such union as
    immoral. “This is strictly for the money,Does she want to call it love?
    Why will the children support such a marriage? Marriage counsels said
    such marriages doesn’t last because the death of the man nullifies such
    marriages and the young girl would now go and marry the young ones
    they love with the late old man’s money.
  • Oluokun Stephen stated that all the essence is for money, status and security. When there is money, women will marry anything inside trouser, It is obvious that such girls will be getting sex elsewhere.” This was never the case in the past.
  • Anna Unachukwu: We unfortunately want to create a kind of
    civilization that has no basis for rationality,  And who told you that
    old men cannot have sex? Is she complaining that her man cannot satisfy
    her sexually? You forget that men’s urge for sex still lives with them
    even when they are eighty but it is not the same for women when she
    reaches menopause. Have you ever slept with an old man and found him
    incompetent? Many ladies who married people not old enough to be their
    fathers still go in the closet to use dildos and vibrators. Is your
    understanding of marriage only based on sex.Where is companionship”?
  • Sociologist, Chinedu Ukwu blamed the economy for such marriage. He
    was of the view that if the nation’s economy should improve where the
    girls could get job and take care of their rent, car loan, dressing,
    feeding and other sundry things of life that most of the older men
    would be rejected and insulted when they approach most of these girls
    for marriage.
  • Pope Toni Obinna added: Checks revealed that such girls are gold diggers who proceed to having affairs/ lovers with old men.
  • Clare Okpala insists that it serves the old men right. She said
    that such girls are on revenge mission to what some boys have done to
    their older female lovers. She said that the young ladies perch on the
    oldies for their money and would dump them when they have gotten what
    they want. “Serves the older perverts right, for marrying women young
    enough to be their daughters/ granddaughters”, she said.
  • Nkechi Mpamugo explained that the girls made their choice and should be allowed to enjoy their life. 
  • Mrs Amaka Onyekwere disclosed that older men in marriage are
    security. She said very huge chunk of them protect their young wives.
    She revealed that older men are great in bed better than younger men.
    There are reports that older men are more sensual and more sexually
    aware. 
  • An anonymous commentator also said that why Young women marry older
    men were because younger men are not ready to settle down and that those
    who are ready were very few.
     
  • A female student told us that she prefers older men because they are
    the best people to marry. According to her, they are more mature and
    know how to love.
     
  • An Igbo lady confessed that she married a man 20years older than
    her and that the man is strong on bed. “I’m married to a man 20yrs
    older and yes! My man can jump o! I met him and he didn’t look his age.
    He’s a very intelligent man and very rich too. His wealth is a plus
    for me because I can’t train any man”, she added. “I don’t want a man
    that will use my sweat to chase small girls”.
    The anonymous Igbo
    lady continued. “My middle name is Orie-aku not Odoziaku. I love my
    husband. He is very handsome. When my kids were toddlers, he would
    bath, change diapers, babysit and he plays soccer with our son every
    evening and he takes a long walk with our son. I’m blessed”.
  • To Funmi Ajanaku, young men don’t have respect for girls, she said
    it takes time for young men to build themselves and for ladies to
    continue waiting on them, they would get old and the men won’t marry
    them at last. She accused the young ones of always wanting sex and the
    girls’ money.
    “A friend of mine is 25 and her husband is 55,
    30yrs difference, she has everything she would ever need”.
     
  • Another annonymous lady spoke of her personal experience and said
    such union is fantastic if one gets his choice. “I am 27 and my husband
    is 50. He was a widower who had lost his wife and kids in a ghastly
    motor accident. Sex is still fantastic. I really don’t know how he does
    it. He satisfies me because he is so energetic and passionate always
    wanting to please me first”, she added. “He must make me come multiple
    times before he comes. We have sex many times in the week, because he
    can’t resist me”. According to her, the fact was that not all such
    marriages succeed. She disclosed that not all such marriages are
    contracted on money. She said some are really induced by true love. “I
    am from a rich home, so money was not the motive. Before I met my
    husband, I have been used by my two previous boyfriends. And I had
    given up on love. But then my knight in shiny armour arrived. I feel in
    love with him the first day I met him, but I was forming. And he kept
    on chasing me. Finally I accepted and it’s been the best of three years
    of my life”. She added. “Even the young ones I had before my husband
    could not satisfy me, it was all about him. I try as much to not think
    of the future and we live for now. We may not have that much time
    together but whatever time God gives me to spend with my soul mate I
    will make it worthwhile”.

  • Susan Orji stated. “As for me, my hubby is 18yrs my senior and I
    love it that way. Small boys come with so much stress. Right from my
    teenage years, I knew I was not meant for small boys. I am 30, married
    at age 24, my hubby treats me like egg, he loves me and over looks my
    excesses. If I had married my mate or someone who is 2-5yrs older, I
    guess maybe I would be back to my parents’ house by now”. “Older men
    pamper their women, the women glow with pride. When you step out with
    your older hubby, all eyes will be on you, women age fast and with an
    older hubby you can’t be bothered”, she added. “Infact the man will
    look younger for you. Days of starting from the scratch are fast
    fading, God forbid, the man makes it to the top, you will be treated as
    a second class citizen especially if you are the type that over loves
    your hubby, it u die today, the man will quickly re-marry tomorrow.
    It’s still small girls that will help you ‘chop’ your man’s money”. 
  • Another lady who declined his name also stated. I’m married to old
    man of 21year different. I’m blessed with three kids. All I can tell
    say is that I’m blessed.sex is great better than my former younger
    boyfriend.

Reasons advanced by some female commentators are that there are
lots of advantages of marrying an older man. They disclosed that older
men are successful, mature, more stable in life, more responsible and
sexually experienced as well. According to the ladies, the older men
are less likely to stray and will have more time for their younger
women. Continuing, the ladies opined that the older men are less likely
to abuse their younger wives who are of the same age with their
daughters.

  • Elsie Obatoke added “I am proud of my older husband. I am 29, he
    is 48. I have never been happier. In my life no man wakes me up with
    flowers, but my older hubby does that consistently for the past three
    years. If I had known I wouldn’t have wasted time when he asked me to
    marry him 6yrs ago. I was busy falling for foolish love for a younger
    guy, fine boy, no money, aiming at sucking me dry. God I thank you that
    I married my husband. he loves my kids so much, plays with them, helps
    me change diapers, sometimes i don’t even do anything in the house, he
    helps me clean, cook and take care of the kids when I am tired. We are
    talking of a multi millionaire here. Even with his status, he has time
    for his family, he listens to me, teaches me things, very patient with
    my excesses, best of all, he prays for me and the kids every day”, .
  • Another lady who claimed to be a student said money is not enough
    for her to marry her ‘Papa’ as she puts it. According to her, its
    scarcity of husband that causes such husband. “My advice for single
    ladies; if you pass 30yrs please, take any one you see, the idea is to
    born children. The rates of infertility problems are alarming”, she
    disclosed further.


“I think for women so inclined; it’s because older (responsible men)
have seen it all, made their mistakes and learnt from them and they know
how to care for a woman. As for famous older men, women are very
attracted to power. That said it has its down sides, when the men cannot
meet up in some department due to illness or natural ageing process”.

Now guys, there you have it.

WOULD YOU WANNA MARRY A RICH OLD MAN WHO LOVES AND PAMPERS YOU SILLY OR  A YOUNG HUSTLER?

the ball is on your cut

PS: Forgive the lengthy epistle

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